What Turns Women On (It’s NOT What You Think!)

What turns on women?

Have a look at this list of female turns ons. It’s a rip from Twitter where girls post about what turns women on about a man, and some of this may surprise you!

what turns women on in their own words

Two things you need to bear in mind:

1: Women tend to be herd creatures. Some of these tweets will be in reaction to other women posting similar turn ons, which encourages the girls to pile in and repeat the same sort of comment.

2: This was ripped from reddit MGTOW. I believe this is the armpit of the internet and full of noodle armed useless soyboys who dislike women. They will have deliberately found these examples to push their own narrative (women are evil, ignore them)

In reality there is a middle ground, which I’ll tease out here.

Theme 1: “Why Are Assholes So Attractive?”

Example comments:

“y are assholes attractive to me lol”

“I fall for the cute jerks that brake your heart”

“The assholes are typically more attractive”

“I fall for assholes and I don’t know why”

“I need to stop dating assholes and go for nice guys but i be so weak for guys that are so bad”

A cursory scan of this image, and reading a website like Heartiste will convince you that you have to act like a jerk or an asshole to attract women.

I disagree. It’s more nuanced than that, and there’s a middle ground.

For a start: acting like an asshole or a jerk will be profoundly unnatural behaviour for the vast majority of you reading this website.

Notice I’ve bolded the word acting. Since it is unnatural, you’d have to fake it.

There’s three problems with this approach:

(i) Most women will sniff out the incongruence in your behaviour immediately. So instead of amplifying attraction, you’ll actually be worse off than if you simply approached her and gave her a compliment (for example)

(ii) You’re moving away from your core by acting inauthentic. The minute you do this, you lose the element of spontaneity and authenticity which is the real key to “natural game” and turning a woman on.

(iii) You’ll be walking a tightrope the entire time, acting out a persona that is not you. That doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun to me. You’ll also encourage a million unwanted shit tests to sniff out if you’re for real – and the minute the act is dropped, BOOM, you’re done.

Finally, bear in mind that most of the women that are highlighted in this image will be American. The example website Heartiste serves mostly an east coast American crowd. This kind of behaviour is probably much more effective for that kind of audience.

Try and pull that off on the streets of Kiev in the daytime and you can expect a very different response!

ukranian girl looking disgusted

NIET said Olga when he tried his “Asshole Game” on her in Kiev

Turning A Girl On : A Better Approach

Let’s return to what the women said. They like assholes, they are more attractive.

Nowadays, it is considered asshole behaviour if a guy is direct, straightforward, unflinching and openly states his intention with a girl when he approaches her.

What the women are really signalling is: they like a guy who is strong, tells them what he wants, takes no shit, doesn’t put them on a pedestal, has strong standards and boundaries (and more).

I’ve been saying this for years. However, I coined the phrase “cornerstone characteristics”, where I teased out 11 characteristics of the naturally attractive man.

The so-called “asshole” behaviours I’ve described above neatly fit within these criteria.

The good thing is, I believe it is NATURAL for a man to want to display these cornerstone characteristics.

Most men feel a protective urge towards women, but the problem is modern society has twisted and bastardised this natural urge and turned a generation of guys into confused, lost boys who don’t understand what turns women on, or what they want.

In my book Primal Seduction (opens in new window) I go into great , actionable detail on how to rediscover your love for women and display these characteristics and give women what they want, WITHOUT acting like an asshole, a jerk or any other incongruent unnatural behaviour.


You do not need to act like a jerk or an asshole to turn women on. However you DO need to start displaying these cornerstone characteristics. If there’s one take away from this post so far, being a weak nice guy who hides his intentions will dry their vagina faster than a gust of wind from Sub Saharan Africa.

nice guy behaviour dries vagina

A Guy Without Cornersone Behaviours Does THIS To A Womans Vagina. Don’t Be One Of Those Guys!

Acting True To Your Nature And Having A Backbone

Example Comments:

“Assholes: true to their nature, have a backbone…Backbones are attractive”

“I need me a real strong man, strong in the spirit an everything. I don’t need no feminine acting man with no self control”

Well look here! It looks like there’s two more cornerstone characteristics on display here.

What does having a backbone sound like to you? Perhaps like a guy with strong standards and boundaries, who stands up for what he believes in?

Who won’t take any shit from a girl…And who will disagree with her, or call her out on her behaviour?

It sounds like that to me!

“I don’t need to feminine acting man with no self control”

Hmmm..It sounds like we have another cornerstone characteristic. Control over your own emotional state. Being the rock when women act girly and lose control.

I’m having fun with this! Let’s pick out some more: Here’s another example comment:

“It’s so hot when men…notice I said men…are agressive & pick you up & ugh just be rude to me”

DING DONG! Yet another cornerstone characteristic. Dominance. It’s all there in my book. (opens in new window)

Hell, it looks just like these girls are trying to sell my book doesn’t it?

I’m being a little facetious here but I think you get the point.

For the remaining people on the planet who haven’t seen my most famous pickup video, here’s an excerpt where I demonstrate dominance. Does the girl look turned on to you? NB It’s a 29 second clip, not the whole video.

There’s another takeaway you need to think about here. Notice how I am translating what the girls are saying (to one degree or another) and molding that with what I have been saying for years? Notice how neatly and cleanly the comments fit within the cornerstone characteristics in my book Primal Seduction?

It’s no coincidence! I’m right, sure. What you can also takeaway from this is you need to have the mental map in your mind of what turns women on, burned into your brain.

When you’ve got this hardiwred, you’ll be able to translate what they actually say within this framework so that you always know what to do next. Their behaviour won’t surprise you anymore, because it fits within your mental map.