Is The Sigma Lifestyle Nihilistic?
I’ve lived a nomadic life for years now and have not yet settled down with a girl. Recently my mind has turned again and again towards the end game. Like most good men before me, I imagine I will be settling down and maybe having a kid or two. I can tell you that whenever I see kids now, I smile fondly at them and something in my heart tugs a little.
Some of you listening may be in the same position, but you pause when you listen to a channel like mine. Isn’t what I talk about just about shagging women? Isn’t the life of a Sigma male all a little nihilistic?
Others of you are thinking that I don’t understand what a Sigma male is (I know this because you keep spamming my channel with comments to tell me so). After all, Sigma males don’t NEED women, and they certainly don’t need to approach.
So, there’s some common misconceptions about the Sigma Life that I want to correct. The first is that Sigma’s don’t “need” women and shouldn’t bother approaching.
For me, this reeks of Gamma reality avoidance, internet tough guy syndrome and idealisation of nihilism (without understanding what Nihilism really is).
Let’s deal with the question of approaching first. The reality is that if you want to attract the best women that you can get nowadays, you simply have to approach women in SOME form. I’ve done extensive analysis on this topic (which I may make a video out of, but truth be told, I find it rather boring) – and there is realistically no other way. You may approach by going to a club, or in you rday to day life, or striking up a conversation with the barista you see every day…But you’re still approaching. There is no other way. If there was, I would have found it. I freely admit that none of us particularly enjoy approaching unless the conditions are perfectly optimal (which is rare). It’s just something that we have to do as men.
The second question is, do Sigma’s “need” women? We’re entering into the realms of Nihilism when we consider this question.
Here’s the definition of Nihilism : the rejection of all religious and moral principles, in the belief that life is meaningless. Most commonly, nihilism is presented in the form of existential nihilism, which argues that life is without objective meaning, purpose, or intrinsic value.
In my view, every man “needs” someone else. At least in part, Men derive value and meaning through their relationships. (In my case this is how I get the most joy and meaning from my life)
“No man is an island entire of itself; every man
is a piece of the continent, a part of the main;
if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe
is the less”
I believe this. Some of the worst times in my life was when I was wracked with worry about money, seemingly with no way out, in an empty house with no one else to talk to. Even if I was able to go out and muster the inclination to approach and fuck a girl, do you really think that would have helped me in those moments?
A life without meaning is an empty, tragic life in my view. I told you about my nomadic lifestyle at the beginning for a reason. Despite being rootless and not having a home, I was still on a journey, and there were moments of meaning that I had with girls. The journey itself had meaning in the sense that it made me the man I am today, so that I can tell you guys about this stuff in detail.
I experience no greater joy in life than having deep conversations with friends. That has meaning. I am extremely loyal to my friends and stick by them..That too has meaning. When I talk about giving your looe to a woman, even if it is not unconditional and long lasting – it still has meaning.
I know that a large part of my life has been a quest for meaning. I have met and known PUA’s before and without naming names, I sometimes felt there was something subtly off about them. Something was missing. It was a lack of meaning in their lives. Just looking for the next pussy to fuck, without giving anything of themselves to the girl, or seemingly without having any kind of authentic connection.
I can tell you that whilst it may look glamourous and exciting to look from the outside in and glamourise the Sigma lifestlye, there is nothing inherently noble or exciting about being a nihilist. Randomly fucking a girl in a toilet (or on a train, ha) is exciting for a brief moment…But ultimately when the moment is gone you are still the same guy.
Some of the greatest minds in history have attempted to answer the question of finding meaning in life, so it’s highly unlikely little old me is going to offer anything new. But I can tell you that idealising nihilism and braying about it on the internet as if you know the answers is not the way to increase your happiness.
Finding meaning and joy in life as a Sigma.
If you’re one of those guys who idealises the idea of a Nihilistic world view, let me try and address that now. Or , perhaps you’re just struggling and are a little depressed about women and dating. So, let me tell you what I am doing now to address the question of Nihilism as a Sigma Male.
1: As you may have noticed I have been a lot more productive in the last 6 months. Clearly I am attempting to build income streams so that I never again have to be financially vulnerable. That is the no1 priority.
But I’ve noticed a curious process is beginning to happen. I am beginning to find meaning through my work.
I take pains to explain my philosophy on attracting women effectively, but also talking about integrity, love, giving of yourself to the woman, honour in relationships, integrity…I believe in all of these things.
I have no delusions about myself or the work I do, but on a very humble level I like to think that I am making a difference in men’s lives, but more crucially I am putting Good into the world…Perhaps in the strictest biblical sense.
I’m taking meaning from what I am doing beyond attempting to secure financial security.
This is why I decided to broach the topic of Nihilism today. I wouldn’t want to be culpable in leading a young bewildered guy down a path of Nihilism. I want to make it clear that life DOES have meaning and value, women have worth and value beyond just being hot and fuckable…They are worth so much more than as a pretty receptacle to stick your dick into.
Takeaway for you: Try and identify something you are passionate about that can make a difference in people’s lives. Or even just some artistic project that you can do which will .
2: I try to see the beauty and inherent Goodness in life. I suspect like many of you I am attracted to vice. Whilst I would not label quick dirty sex as squalid…It’s not really noble or beautiful in any aesthetic sense.
As I’ve alluded to, when I walk the streets of Poland, I am not just scanning for hot girls any longer. I look closely at peoples face and I see a certain brand of purity and joy…There is something uplifting about seeing men with their wives and children. Seeing all the young kids running around, happy and secure. Seeing the grandmothers and families all together, joyfully celebrating their time together.
I cannot quite put my finger on it but this quality of inherent purity and goodness is something I’ve only recently started to notice, perhaps because I’ve only recently started looking for it. I do recall I saw it years ago in Minsk , Belarus, when I saw young men and women together and realising that they may well be together for life. It’s that sort of place..
There’s something heartbreakingly beautiful about that.
3: I still love to bonk women of course. I still have the same urges I had when I was 25. But, I take my time more nowadays and for the first time I am sincerely looking for good motherly qualities in a girl I meet.
That’s a background project and who knows, it may never come to fruition. Alongside this, I always look to treat a girl well, to not lie, and to make every effort to ensure that I don’t end up hurting her or disrespecting her. That too has meaning. Living life with integrity and honour has meaning.
This podcast may not be as clear and logical as my others, probably because I do not have all the answers myself. But I can tell you that a Nihilistic life has a certain dark seductive allure…But it’s not the route to happiness.